The biggest reason why we gain weight back after losing it: we set goals & not standards.
The biggest reason why we gain weight back after losing it: we set goals & not standards.
We know how the story goes:
1️⃣Swing into over drive: hyper focus on calories, macros, workout intensity & duration, how long we can go without having a “cheat meal,” etc.
2️⃣We reach our weight loss goal, or we get really close to it.
3️⃣Then the pendulum suddenly swings back the other way.
Starving. Moody. Sluggish. Completely unmotivated. Crazy cravings.
...aannnd all the weight creeps back on.
❔Whyyyy does this happen❔
👉🏽 B/c we set our sights on a finish line, and did whatever we had to do to get there without thinking about the bigger picture, which is this:
✨When it comes to our bodies, THERE IS NO finish line.✨
🙅🏼♀️Our minds don’t like this because we are addicted to setting all the goals.
🙅🏼♀️We are addicted to believing that we’ll never be good enough, & so always reaching for the next goal fully supports this self-created story.
🙅🏼♀️We don’t want to subscribe to higher standards because we are addicted to the dopamine hits that ride on the backs of short-lived successes.
- We are addicted to the number on the scale,
- the pat on the back,
- the extreme before & after photos,
- the finish line painted across the pavement for a half-marathon,
ANYTHING our external reality offers to give us in exchange for the sense of validation we crave so deeply on the inside. 🙏🏽
When we raise our standards however, this very upgrade in & of itself becomes self-validating.
✨By believing we deserve a high quality of self-care & nourishment, we begin to internally meet our own needs.
✨And when we elevate our standard of how we believe our bodies should be treated, the goals become obsolete.
✨When we are fit, we just are, simply, fit. We are no longer hustling & grinding and “doing all the fit things” to prove something. There is nothing left to prove. Only our standards remain.
✨This is an extremely peaceful place to be in. All the energy previously spent, all the mental real estate, the rollercoaster of emotions, they simply clear out, & we are freed up to use our capacities in much more awesome, evolved ways.